wingman
/ˈwɪŋmæn/
Very CommonA friend who helps you approach, talk to, or impress someone you're interested in.
Historically gendered male, but the concept is now used more broadly. Often used with a mix of seriousness and humor. The term comes from military aviation.
Real-world examples4 examples
| # | Example | What it means | Source |
|---|---|---|---|
| 01 | he's been my wingman since college, the man is built for this role | The friend has a long, proven history of helping the speaker with romantic situations. | x, 2024 |
| 02 | bro played wingman for me and spent 45 minutes talking to her friend so i could have a conversation. goat | The friend kept the target's companion occupied so the speaker could talk to the person they liked. | reddit, 2023 |
| 03 | my dog is literally my best wingman. everyone wants to talk to me at the park | The dog attracts people and starts conversations, fulfilling the wingman function. | tiktok, 2024 |
| 04 | i need a wingman for this work event or i'm going to stand by the chips all night | The speaker wants a companion to help them be social in an unfamiliar setting. | x, 2024 |
Use it when
- A friend is helping you approach or attract someone.
- Someone is taking on a supportive, cover-providing role in a social setting.
- Describing the role of a helper in any social or competitive dynamic.
Do not use it when
- The friend is going after the same person as you.
- You mean a female friend playing the same role -- consider wingwoman instead.Use “wingwoman” instead.
Variations and related forms
Wingman vs wingwoman
wingman
Wingman is the traditional term, historically applied to a male friend helping another man.
VS
wingwoman
Wingwoman is the female equivalent, sometimes considered more effective because cross-gender social dynamics differ.
Origin and context
Originally a military aviation term for the pilot flying beside and protecting the lead pilot. The social meaning developed in American culture through the 1980s and 1990s and was popularized in film and TV.
- First seen
- 1980s
- Confidence
- medium
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