being set up
/ˈbiːɪŋ sɛt ʌp/
CommonHaving a mutual friend or acquaintance arrange a romantic introduction on your behalf.
Being set up implies you didn't initiate it -- someone else decided you should meet. Can be welcomed or unwanted. Often involves some pressure from the person doing the setting up.
Real-world examples4 examples
| # | Example | What it means | Source |
|---|---|---|---|
| 01 | my aunt set me up with someone from her church and i said yes just to get her to stop asking | The speaker agreed to the arranged meeting mainly to end the pressure, not out of genuine interest. | x, 2024 |
| 02 | she keeps trying to set me up with her coworkers. i appreciate it but also i'm fine | The person means well but the speaker isn't asking for help with their dating life. | reddit, 2023 |
| 03 | got set up last weekend and honestly it went better than any app date i've been on | The arranged introduction was a positive experience, better than self-initiated online dating. | tiktok, 2024 |
| 04 | never again. the last time i got set up he showed up an hour late and acted like it was normal | A bad experience with a friend-arranged date left the speaker reluctant to try again. | x, 2023 |
Use it when
- A third party arranged a romantic introduction without the person initiating it.
- Someone's friend or family member pushed them to meet a specific person.
Do not use it when
- You met someone through an app on your own.
- A friend introduced you casually with no romantic intention.
Being set up vs blind date
being set up
Being set up focuses on the act of someone arranging the introduction.
VS
blind-date
A blind date describes the actual meeting with someone you haven't seen before.
Origin and context
Common English idiom with broad usage. The romantic sense has been in use for decades. No known viral origin moment.
- First seen
- mid-20th century
- Confidence
- medium
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