enemies to lovers book IRL
CommonWhen a real-life rivalry or mutual dislike slowly turns into romantic feelings, mirroring the classic fiction trope.
Usually said with some humor or self-awareness. The person calling it out knows the trope and is either delighted or horrified that it is happening.
Real-world examples4 examples
| # | Example | What it means | Source |
|---|---|---|---|
| 01 | we literally hated each other in january and now i can't stop thinking about him. enemies to lovers book IRL is actually happening to me | The speaker is shocked to find themselves in the trope they read about. | x, 2024 |
| 02 | my coworkers are literally doing enemies to lovers book IRL and i have a front row seat | Two people at the speaker's workplace are going through the arc. | tiktok, 2024 |
| 03 | we are NOT doing enemies to lovers book IRL i do not care how good his banter is | The speaker is resisting the pull of romantic feelings for someone they clash with. | x, 2023 |
| 04 | the tension is unreal. this is so enemies to lovers book IRL | Observing or experiencing palpable romantic tension born out of conflict. | tiktok, 2024 |
Use it when
- Two people who disliked each other are developing feelings.
- You caught feelings for someone you used to argue with constantly.
- You want to frame a real situation using book trope language.
Do not use it when
- You just mean two people who started off not knowing each other well.Use “slow burn” instead.
- The 'enemies' part is not real, they were just strangers.
Variations and related forms
Enemies to lovers book IRL vs dark romance trope
enemies to lovers book IRL
Refers specifically to a real-life situation mirroring the enemies-to-lovers arc.
VS
dark-romance-trope
Dark romance trope is a broader term for any dark romance fiction convention, not necessarily real life.
Origin and context
Emerged from BookTok as readers began applying romance fiction trope vocabulary to real-life situations. The IRL suffix marks the transition from page to lived experience.
- First seen
- early-2020s
- Confidence
- medium
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