pick me
contemptuous, frustrated
the one-line answer
Someone who demeans their own group to win approval from the other group.
Pick me behavior means doing or saying things that set yourself apart from your own group in order to get attention or approval from another group. Usually used about women who say things like 'I'm not like other girls' to impress men. Now applied broadly.
mainstream
Your coworker might use this word.
01 / in the wild
hear it move.
roast
she said she hates drama and loves football. classic pick me.
She is positioning herself as different from other women to get male approval.
03 / don't confuse
similar, not the same.
pick me
Pick me is seeking approval by self-differentiation
vs
karen
Karen is entitled without seeking approval.