past relationship check
/pɑːst rɪˈleɪʃənʃɪp tʃɛk/
UncommonScrutinizing someone's relationship history to judge whether they're worth dating.
The term is often used critically, pointing out that people treat a new partner's history like a background check rather than just getting to know them.
Real-world examples3 examples
| # | Example | What it means | Source |
|---|---|---|---|
| 01 | three dates in and he already did a full past relationship check. i was not prepared. | The person was surprised by how deep the questioning about their history went. | x, 2024 |
| 02 | apparently i failed the past relationship check because my last thing was a situationship | The person's relationship history was used against them as a disqualifier. | reddit, 2024 |
| 03 | i just want to know their history not run a past relationship check on them lmao | The person is defending genuine curiosity against the more clinical vetting practice. | x, 2023 |
Use it when
- Someone is asking about a date's relationship history as part of vetting them.
- Criticizing someone for treating a new partner like an application.
- Talking about a type of early-dating behavior.
Do not use it when
- You mean simply talking about exes casually.
- You mean social media stalking an ex.Use “orbiting” instead.
Origin and context
Coined as a sardonic label for the increasingly common practice of vetting potential partners by interrogating their relationship history, framed like a background check. Emerged from dating discourse on Twitter and Reddit in the early 2020s.
- First seen
- early-2020s
- Confidence
- low
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