hand-holding
/ˈhænd hoʊldɪŋ/
CommonOver-explaining or over-guiding someone through something they should be able to figure out on their own.
Usually critical. Describes the guidance as condescending or excessive. Can be directed at a product's design or at a person.
Real-world examples4 examples
| # | Example | What it means | Source |
|---|---|---|---|
| 01 | this game has so much hand-holding. it literally tells you what button to press every 20 seconds. | The game does not trust the player to learn independently. | reddit, 2023 |
| 02 | my manager hand-holds every task. i can't do anything without three check-ins. | The manager micromanages instead of trusting the person to work independently. | x, 2024 |
| 03 | elden ring does not hand-hold you at all and that's the point | The game trusts the player to discover things on their own. | youtube, 2022 |
| 04 | the onboarding had so much hand-holding that i didn't actually learn how to do anything | Over-guided training left the person without real competence. | reddit, 2024 |
Use it when
- A game or product is over-explaining things a player or user should discover.
- A person is receiving more guidance than the situation warrants.
- Criticizing something for not trusting the audience to figure it out.
Do not use it when
- The help is appropriate for a genuine beginner.
- You mean something is generally easy or unchallenging.Use “tutorial-island” instead.
Hand-holding vs tutorial island
hand-holding
Hand-holding is a present-tense criticism of excessive guidance right now.
VS
tutorial-island
Tutorial island is a retrospective framing of an entire phase that was easy.
Origin and context
Literal phrase repurposed as criticism in game design discourse. Became common in gaming communities to describe games that remove player agency through excessive guidance. Spread from game reviews into general internet usage.
- First seen
- 2000s
- Confidence
- medium
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